Grown-Up's Guide
Pip's Feelings Club · Episode 22: Echo Is Shy
"One thing I can see..."Name five things, one at a time
"You choose."Play, or just watch first
"A bit quieter."The worry gets quieter, not gone
The steps from the episode
Notice the worry (a fluttery tummy, what-ifs going round) → Look around → Name five things you can see, one at a time. Looking around brings the mind back to right here. The worry might still be there, but it is not so loud. Then the worried one chooses. Nobody talks Echo into playing: she watches first, then asks to float one boat, and she is still "a little bit fluttery" at the end. This trick is for worries that spin. It is never for getting a child past something that is really unsafe.
Doing a sheet
Watch the episode together first: scan the code on Sheet 1, or visit pipsfeelingsclub.com. A calm 10 minutes, never as a consequence. You read the comic, your child does the pens. Finish with a play card.
What to talk about
Sheet
Ask them
Do together
5 Things I Can See
"What was Echo worried about?"
"What five things did she see?"
"Did Echo have to play?"
Name five things together, somewhere new each time: the kitchen, the car, the park.
My Five Things
"What made Pip's tummy fluttery?"
"What did she look at?"
"When is your tummy fluttery?"
Plan it for one worry: "Next time, we'll find five things first."
When a worry starts to spin
1. Name it: "Is your tummy fluttery?"
2. "Let's look. One thing you can see..."
3. Then: "Play, or watch first. You choose."
When the worry is big
Get close and low. Slow your voice down.
You start: "I can see your red shoes."
Don't push on. Watching first counts.
Do it out loud yourself
"My tummy's a bit fluttery about this."
"Five things I can see... the kettle..."
"Still a bit fluttery. But I'm ready."
Catch them doing it well
"You looked around. Lovely looking."
"You chose to watch first. Good choosing."
"You had a go while you felt fluttery!"
Try to avoid
"There's nothing to worry about."
Talking them into it. They choose.
Using it to get them past a real danger.
Every day (2 minutes)
In the car, at the shops, at bedtime:
"One thing you can see?" Take turns to five.
Practise when calm, so it's there for a worry.