Grown-Up's Guide
Pip's Feelings Club · Episode 16: Rory's Tower
"I'm sorry. Can I help?"The words to copy
"I knocked your tower down."Say what you did
"I need a minute."A friend may not be ready yet
The steps from the episode
Calm down first → Say what you did → Say sorry → Ask, "Can I help?" Then give your friend time if they need it. In the episode Rory says, "I need a minute." Pip picks up the blocks and waits until he is ready. The new tower is not quite as tall as the first one. Sorry did not undo the knock. It was the start of fixing it.
Doing a sheet
Watch the episode together first: scan the code on Sheet 1, or visit pipsfeelingsclub.com. A calm 10 minutes, never as a consequence and not straight after a real upset. You read the comic, your child does the pens. Practise the words when there is nothing to be sorry for: a skill learned in a calm moment is one they can find after a storm. Finish with a play card.
What to talk about
Sheet
Ask them
Do together
Say Sorry, Fix It
"What did Pip do after her storm?"
"Was Rory ready straight away?"
"What did Pip do while she waited?"
Count the four steps on your fingers. Say Pip's sorry words to a teddy.
A Brave Sorry
"What did Pip say to Papa?"
"Which fix goes with which oops?"
"Is Pip still a good friend?"
Think of one small oops from this week. How was it fixed, or how could it be?
After a storm has won
1. Calm first. Sorry can wait.
2. "What happened?" Help them say it.
3. "How can we fix it?" Do it together.
When they're stormy
Skip the sorry for now. It won't be real.
Stay near. Keep everyone safe. Few words.
Come back to it later, when they are calm.
Do it out loud yourself
"I snapped at you before. I'm sorry."
"Can I help fix it?"
Let them see grown-ups mend mistakes too.
Catch them doing it well
"You said what you did. That was brave."
"You asked how to help."
"You gave them time. That was kind."
Try to avoid
Making them say sorry on the spot.
Expecting the friend to be fine at once.
Words like "bad" or "naughty".
Every day (2 minutes)
At bedtime: "Any oops today?"
"Did it get fixed? How?"
Share one of yours, and how you fixed it.