Grown-Up's Guide
Pip's Feelings Club · Episode 14: No Thank You
"Stop!"Stand tall, wing up, strong voice
"No thanks."For things you just don't want
"Okay."When a friend says no to you
The steps from the episode
Strong voice ("Stop!", standing tall, wing up) → Step away → Get a grown-up. Every time. In the episode Rory is too excited to stop the first time, so Pip says it again, steps away and tells Miss Wren, who thanks her and helps. "No thanks" is for things you just don't want: it isn't mean. And a friend's no matters just like yours: Rory keeps his new kite, and Pip, disappointed, says "Okay" and finds a leaf to fly.
Doing a sheet
Watch the episode together first: scan the code on Sheet 1, or visit pipsfeelingsclub.com. A calm 10 minutes, never as a consequence. You read the comic, your child does the pens. Practise "Stop!" as a game while everyone is happy: a strong voice learned in a calm moment is easier to find when play gets rough. Finish with a play card.
What to talk about
Sheet
Ask them
Do together
My Strong Stop
"What did Pip do with her wing?"
"What did she do when Rory didn't stop?"
"Who could you tell?"
Practise standing tall, wing up, "Stop!" Name the grown-ups they can tell.
No Thanks and Okay
"Was Pip being mean to Kip?"
"Whose kite was it?"
"What did Pip do after she said okay?"
Take turns saying "No thanks" and "Okay" about small, silly things.
When play gets too rough
1. First: "Thank you for telling me."
2. Help straight away. Stay calm.
3. Later: "You said stop and got help."
When a no feels stormy
Name it: "You really wanted a turn."
The no still stands. Don't bargain.
Later, help them find something else.
Do it out loud yourself
They say stop to tickles? Stop at once.
Say your own "No thanks" kindly.
Take a no well: "Okay. Another time."
Catch them doing it well
"Strong voice! I heard your stop."
"You stepped away and came to find me."
"You said okay. I know that was hard."
Try to avoid
Sending them back after stop has failed.
Making a child share something special.
Laughing off their stop, even in fun.
Every day (2 minutes)
Stop and Go: wing up, "Stop!", freeze.
One "No thanks" and one "Okay" each.
A star for every strong stop.