Grown-Up's Guide
Pip's Feelings Club · Episode 12: I Feel… When…
"I feel... when you... Please..."The clear sentence
"Please stop."The short version, for little ones
Tell a grown-upIf your friend still doesn't stop
The steps from the episode
I feel (the feeling) → when you (what is happening) → Please (what would help): "I feel cross when you tap the table. Please stop." In the episode Pip yells first, and Rory is hurt but still doesn't know what was wrong. The clear sentence tells him. It is clear, not magic: Rory still likes tapping, so he taps his knee instead. Little ones can start with "Please stop."
Doing a sheet
Watch the episode together first: scan the code on Sheet 1, or visit pipsfeelingsclub.com. A calm 10 minutes, never as a consequence. You read the comic, your child does the pens. Say the sentence together a few times in an ordinary voice: words practised in a calm moment are easier to find in a cross one. Finish with a play card.
What to talk about
Sheet
Ask them
Do together
I Feel... When...
"What was bothering Pip?"
"Did yelling help Rory understand?"
"What did Pip say the second time?"
Build the sentence together about something small and real from today.
My Clear Words
"How did Pip feel when Kip laughed?"
"What could you say to Kip?"
"What if a friend still doesn't stop?"
Fill in the sentence together. Agree which grown-ups they can tell.
When something is bothering them
1. Get close: "Something is bothering you."
2. Help find the feeling word: "Cross? Sad?"
3. Start it off, "I feel...", and let them finish.
When they're stormy
Calm comes first: a cuddle or a quiet spot.
Use fewer words. The sentence can wait.
Later: "What could you say next time?"
Do it out loud yourself
Let them hear you say it to a grown-up:
"I feel rushed when we are late."
"Please help me pack." An ordinary voice.
Catch them doing it well
"You told me how you felt. That helped me."
"You said please stop, and you didn't yell."
"You told me when words didn't work."
Try to avoid
Insisting on all of it. "Please stop" counts.
Promising it will work every time.
Making them say it while they're still upset.
Every day (2 minutes)
At bedtime: one "I feel... when..." each.
Happy ones count too: "I feel glad when..."
A star each time they use their clear words.