Grown-Up's Guide

Pip's Feelings Club · Episode 10: Good Game
"Good game!"If you lose. And if you win.
"Not yet. I still feel a bit sad."It's fine to take a break
"You nearly got me."Kind words from the winner

The steps from the episode

Say "Good game!" → take a break if you need one → play again when you're ready. Pip says "Good game" while she still feels sad about losing. Then she sits on the log until the sad feeling gets smaller, and comes back when she is ready. Being a good sport is not pretending you don't mind. When Pip wins, she doesn't show off: "Good game, Kip! You nearly got me."

Doing a sheet

Watch the episode together first: scan the code on Sheet 1, or visit pipsfeelingsclub.com. A calm 10 minutes, never as a consequence. You read the comic, your child does the pens. Practise "Good game" on quick, silly games where little is at stake. Finish with a play card.

What to talk about

Sheet
Ask them
Do together
Good Game!
"How did Pip feel when she lost?"
"Which ending would you pick?"
"Did Pip have to race again straight away?"
Play one quick game. Both say "Good game!" at the end.
Win or Lose
"What did Pip say when she won?"
"Did she show off?"
"Where could you take a break?"
Choose a break spot at home together.

When they lose

1. Name it: "You wanted to win. That's hard."
2. Say it quietly yourself: "Good game."
3. Offer a break: "Come back when you're ready."

When they're stormy

Use fewer words. Stay near.
Leave "Good game" until the storm is smaller.
Still too big? Sit with them. The game can wait.

Do it out loud yourself

Lose a game: "Aww. I lost. Good game!"
Win a game: "Good game! You nearly got me."
"I felt a bit sad, so I had a little break."

Catch them doing it well

"You said good game while you were sad."
"You took a break and came back."
"You won, and you were kind about it."

Try to avoid

Letting them win every time.
Making them play again straight away.
"It's only a game." To them, it's big.

Every day (2 minutes)

One quick game: a paper-ball race or a race to the door.
Winner and loser both say, "Good game!"
A star each time they say it by themselves.
Share the words with their teacher so school can use "Good game" too. See your GP or child health nurse if losing brings big storms most times, they are getting worse, or someone is getting hurt.
Based on coping-with-losing skills from the Pyramid Model ("maybe next time").